Posts Tagged ‘support’

A message in a … gaze

In In my mind on March 24, 2012 at 2:32 pm

She seemed lost, looking here and there, seeking for something and in that mess in her mind, she suddenly felt a gaze fall upon her.

She initially ignored it and pursued with her own worries but that gaze wasn’t warding off. She slowly looked towards him and didn’t know what to say. Her eyes did the talking.

She felt like he had guessed her troubles and wanted to help. Yet, she was so beaten up by the situation that she could hardly speak.

He held out his hand and gently touched hers. “It will be OK.”, said his eyes while she looked into them and felt tears coming to hers. That look came like a support.

She began to feel a lot stronger and hope was coming back slowly. Someone had understood her, without having to shout for help. It means that she’s being cared for and that she was never all alone.

She lowered her head, closed her eyes and thanked the skies for this. Then slowly, she lifted her face with a faint but sincere smile on it. She held back his hand and let her eyes say : “Yes, it will all be OK.”

Forgive the Forgetfulness

In General thoughts on February 26, 2012 at 6:40 pm

I bet we all know at least one person who’s always forgetting hangout plans among friends, birthdays, weddings or even what he/she told you earlier. And I’m sure somehow you’ve felt that if they’ve forgotten something important, it’s because they simply don’t care.

Rest assured, I had the same feeling too but then I reflected upon it as I kind of joined in the forgetfulness from time to time.

Actually, they don’t do it on purpose neither are you less important to them. In fact it happens when your mind has a lot to process at the same time. When you are tackling several situations : work, home, family, friends and love in parallel in your mind, it becomes inevitable to forget one or two things.

If you could have a peep inside those persons’ heart, you’d definitely see how much they care for you and if you could peep inside their mind, you’d feel like lost in a maze! Different people think and process thoughts differently. Once again, they are not to be blamed for that. No, it is not a weakness nor a faulty brain functioning. This is what enables them to handle a lot of situations altogether. We all have our own ways to tackle problems/issues, this is theirs.

One big mistake never to commit is to expect them or force them to change. If you possess a red rose plant, why would you expect it to give white ones? It’s the same for them. It would only pressurise them and hurt them.

The best way would be to understand them first and then accept that forgetful habit. Come on, it’s not the end of the world! At least they are not forgetting who you are, what you mean to them and what they feel for you!

They won’t mind at all if you’d help to make them remember things. On contrary, it becomes like a lifebuoy at times in that sea of ‘things to remember’.

A very important point to note about forgetfulness, it’s that at times they might even forget about themselves. And this is where your help could simply save them from neglecting themselves. Holding grudges won’t bring you anything but bitterness whereas willingly holding out your hand to help them will make it happier and quite soothing to have you around.

This world is full of different people with different identities and characters. This is the beauty of it all! So, forgive the forgetfulness and learn to become that ‘reminder’ for them. In the end, see how life becomes simpler, easier and above all happier!

The comfort of a touch

In In my mind on September 4, 2011 at 9:17 am

Everything seemed blurred and in a mess in her head. She fought with her emotions and couldn’t see where they would lead her. The feeling of being lost somewhere was intense and she felt herself drowning in it even further, every minute.

Suddenly, a strange warmth caught her and woke her up from that nightmare.The gentle grip of a hand over hers, like a promise of support and comfort. She felt rigid at first, unsure whether to respond to that soft gesture. Yet, the tenderness of that touch slowly caught up her feelings.

It came like a sweet moment of care and relief. Someone had been kind to care and show it. And even if the intention behind could have been something else, no matter what, the comfort it aroused in her made the instant magic.

She let go her inhibitions and opened up her hand to feel fully that warmth in her grip. She explored that soft, tender touch like a new found pleasure. For a few minutes, life had stood still. For a few seconds, her heart filled up with some long lost feeling of closeness. She was reviving that wonderful emotion of being cared for. She felt life flowing back in her and willingly got lost  in the moment.

When it all stopped, she felt happy for that small instant of comfort. She came back to reality feeling a bit less bitter. The touch of a hand had brought her a message of hope. It might not come again but at least it was one rare moment in her life where she had experienced differently the warmth of having a hand to hold onto.