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That Winter Feeling

In In my mind on April 28, 2012 at 11:55 am

Every year, it’s the same feeling, the same sweet sensation of welcoming winter with those very first cold mornings and that chilly breeze in the evening…

It brings back old memories together with the announcement of the best month (for me) to come – May. It makes me smile and feel nostalgic also.

When comes winter, comes the reminiscence of school days where school blazers were out, mock exams were nearing and night time had already come when tuition was over.

There are also memories of university days where courses were ending, exam time tables issued and classrooms re-arranged for exam purpose. There was excitement about holidays that were to come, lots of planning with friends as well as lots of group meeting for so-called group revision 🙂 . Winter also brings the thought of cold winter nights spent revising…

The ‘Winter Feeling’ is also that sweet feeling of May coming up with its load of birthdays, shopping and special occasions to celebrate! This time of the year always brings a kind of sweetness in the atmosphere. Maybe it is the same for us all, when it’s our month of the year, we feel a bit more secure, a bit happier, a bit more special…

Among the clouds

In Events, In my mind on April 21, 2012 at 4:53 am

Classical music resounding in the ears, clouds of all sizes for only sight against a wonderfully blue sky…

Yes, I have finally taken flight among those puffy white clouds I’m used to contemplate while on land!

The moment I felt the plane leave the tarmac, I couldn’t help but smile heartily. All the fears and anxieties gave way to excitement and joy. I was literally like a small kid discovering Disneyland!

For a few seconds I got somewhat emotional with teary eyes as the thought of experiencing such a wonderful moment and that too all alone, cropped up.

However, as the splendid view of our blue lagoon displayed in front of me and the plane began to soar up among those oh so beloved clouds, I felt like life was just great!

I was up to discover new horizons on my very own, I would be living a new chapter of my life!

I smiled again as I felt so lucky all at once. Life’s good, really good! And high above in those skies, wrapped in the whiteness of the clouds, I felt a bit changed…

Am I faking it?

In General thoughts on March 18, 2012 at 11:05 am

No, guys, this is not about orgasms, really sorry for the ‘inconvenience’ (hehe :p ). This is mostly a reflexion about how one can feel calm and happy despite troubles, worries and deceptions in life.

The thought actually came to me when I had a conversation with a friend. It happens to some people to develop a non-violent attitude during adverse situations and still come out of these fully contented with life.

The question arose whether such attitude is not only a consequence of suppressing one’s anger, frustration or pain which later on can burst out suddenly.

Quite elusive, I’d say, so I went on some self-introspection (as usual 🙂 ). Amazed myself, by this strange calmness and happiness that I feel even if times have been bad, I began to wonder whether I’m faking it or not. Am I doing it on purpose to feel happy and suppress negative feelings?

The answer came in some reading I did. It is absolutely possible to go through hardships and still remain calm and joyful once you’ve accepted that what is happening is part of your life’s journey. Besides, it takes to have a different perception of things. If I had limited myself to the dark and sad side of the situation, I’d be long lost into depression. However, I’ve developed a need to analyse situations in every angle, specially their bright ones. This is also where the different people in your life become crucial. Each individual has a different approach to life and I’ve been able to learn from that.

Hence, I’m not faking it. Every emotion is real and my happiness is genuine. I’m not saying that I’m not hurt but my joy and satisfaction to be alive is far beyond my pain. Besides, every hardship in life is meant to show us that everything’s not granted or given and if you’ve overcome it, you’ve come further from being a simple human being to a knowledgeable and stronger one.

The Pleasure of Giving

In General thoughts, In my mind on February 5, 2012 at 2:40 pm

When you see life the way I do, that strong urge to give to others just to see their face radiate with joy, is inevitable.

How and why, these questions I can’t answer. It often occurs to me to wonder why I am so different, why does this need to reach for others’ happiness keep growing? I’ve given up finding the answer because in the end, giving to others is not a burden at all.

Maybe I always feel like we are all so engrossed in striving for our way through life that we easily forget the small pleasures we can derive from it. After all, what’s the use of living if you can’t smile, if you can’t love and if you can’t find any bright light shining on you?

Hence, that pleasure I derive in giving to others. It makes the world, even if it is not the whole of it, but the one around me, a happier and jollier one. I don’t do it for attention, I do it because it is a need I have to fulfill and get the satisfaction that my life didn’t go to waste. In life, we can achieve great materialistic heights but if we can’t make simple little things count, we would have spent an empty, meaningless life.

And this is also what gives me pleasure in giving away. It is the possibility to make one simple thing – a flower, a chocolate bar, a candle or anything so simple, even a smile – become the expression of sweet affection and love. It is giving the phrase,  “It’s the thought that counts“, it’s real meaning.

Actually writing this article isn’t meant to boast about me but again to share about it. Sometimes when you feel so different from others, the mind and heart seek to be heard and understood. This blog is a means to voice it out. No matter if no one reads or a few do. Putting in words what I feel and what I go through makes it a relief to have expressed what’s inside my head…

The Path to being Selfless

In General thoughts, In my mind on November 8, 2011 at 7:48 am

I am no philosopher, no great soul nor a preacher, but I wish to share this rich experience of mine. Not to boast about nor to brag about but to communicate and express this wonderful feeling of being selfless.

Each individual finds his/her own way to forget his/her pains and worries. I have found one very rooted to the essence of our existence on Earth.

As far as I can remember, I’ve been always touched and moved by the plights of others. Always wishing to be able to do something to ease their pain. As years went, I gradually learnt that I have my limits yet that I can still do certain things to make the people around me feel better.

Compassion is the key word and compassion comes with understanding of others in their own stance. It might not be exactly putting yourself in their shoes, it is impossible. Yet, it’s about feeling their pain as your own and think what woud’ve made you feel good in such case.

Once you reach for helping others, giving them a little ray of hope, warmth and courage to go on, you completely forget your own worries. Suddenly, whatever was bugging you seems nothing, even meaningless. An unexpected peace of mind invades you and trust me there is no other intoxication that can make you feel that way!

My motive might seem selfish since helping others makes me feel good. However, this is the beauty of the gesture – your own happiness begins to lie in that of others and not only the one you enjoy on your own. It is said that whatever is shared is far more enjoyable than what isn’t. Indeed, it is true. Try it and see. Share a little happiness with anyone and feel the intense emotion of being fulfilling the most humane duty you could. It doesn’t need much: a little smile, some kind words or kind gestures and the world becomes a better one.

Immerse yourself in this ocean of care and love for others and see how much you get drenched with self-satisfaction and inner peace. We all have our own load of happiness, it’s useless being selfish or greedy about it. Give, give and give, without expecting anything and see how much you actually receive. You might be amazed by how much you get back, more than you could deal with! This is the beauty of it all, the beauty of being selfless…