Loving – the guys’ way

Even if guys have feelings and emotions, they have that wonderful ability to still think logically and separate emotions from practical living with amazing calm.

They might have a storm raging inside them but you’d hardly see it if they choose to hide it from you. Unless, the bond you share with them is strong to decipher them right from a look.

They might not go crazy and hazy like us, screaming and hopping when we fall in love (ok not all girls do that but still we go ecstatic) but they might be those who are intensely loving someone- may be more than us.

I completely admire that special trait of you guys. How you manage to keep your composure in front of her, how you keep your calm and act so cool even if there’s an urge to tell what you feel. I think it’s the harder way to love, yet you do it so well.

And that’s actually how you identify true love in guys. The one they feel silently, the one they first take time to assimilate for themselves, the one that invades them but over which they have full control.

Then the day they step forward to spell it out, it comes like a wind of fresh air that surprises you on a very warm day. There’s no way to run from it or hide from it. The intentions are so pure and heartfelt that you are bound to melt.

Loving the guys’ way is intensely beautiful: a mixture of passion, patience, tenderness and calm. It’s that one state of mind that makes a man/guy the best person he could be as he’s discovered what real love can be…

Romance isn’t dumb at all

There might be a common thought that romance is only for girls or sissies. It has always been hard for some men to acknowledge their true feelings and express them out – fearing this would kill their manly image. Well guess what guys, romance is nothing demeaning at all, specially for your loads of testosterone!

Though being romantic requires you to be sentimental, it doesn’t mean you should get all emotional and break into tears for her. We are not even asking you to effeminate your behaviours. Romance is about yourself and showing your love to your beloved. There is no ONE way to be romantic, though there are classics – flowers, soft music, champagne, chocolates etc. A romantic gesture can vary from a very simple hands holding to the big show like candle light dinner with a violinist playing while you share champagne with her.

Anyways, these are also cliches. Romance varies between couples. At times it’s unspoken words that do it all by simply exchanging looks or doing little things like remembering what he/she likes to eat and bring it in for lunch/dinner. If we think about it, it’s how you actually show to the other person that he/she counts.

Romance happens everyday and it’s how it makes couples last. Also it’s quite wrong to think that it kills the libido. On contrary, it might very well lead you to some happy hours in bed (or anywhere else. ) later on. It’s always so great to know you’re special to someone and it’s even better when you’re being told or showed. Romance could be described like the special way for lovers to turn their partners into stars. It brings out their uniqueness in the spotlight.

It could also be considered as the language of love but which can be spoken in various different ways by anyone (even machos). You just need to find your own local version. Remember that memories are life’s best treasures and romance makes memories the best treasures ever! So go ahead and be romantic in you own special way.

Guys have feelings

Sad Happy by Isaiah Stephens

Yes, they do! It seems somewhat controversial for a girl to write about this but I wished to voice out my perception of the matter…

Since the time I’ve had friends of the opposite sex, I’ve been consistently discovering new facets of men (no wrong meaning there)!

Lately, there’s one particular aspect that has touched me a lot: how guys express and manage their feelings. Under their rough and tough appearance, most of them are very soft and gentle. Just like we, girls , always relish the idea of being admired, cherished and even “owned” by someone, guys also feel the same. It might be at different levels, compared to girls , but still…

It’s always a pleasure for them to hear how handsome or special they are and no matter how “indifferent” they might appear rest assured that the message went right to their heart

Personally, I’ve seen that it’s easy to forget that guys can be sentimental and sensitive. Though they might hide it behind their tough looks, they yearn for affection and love too. They might not fall into girlish depression (for some at least) but they also feel the pain of being dumped or betrayed.

I might seem to be pointing out the obvious but if we think of our everyday life, specially us girls, we might find that we often ignore this fact. We tend to expect a lot from guys specially on the sentimental side. Let’s realise that if we want their affection, we aught to understand their feelings and give them as much as we want to receive from them. Affection and care are the best at melting the toughest of guys !