It’s too easy to depend on others to give us that cure we need to feel better. It’s also too damaging for relationships you share with those people.

Why damaging? Because the more you depend on someone, the more you’ll need that person by your side and when he/she is caught up somewhere, you’ll feel abandoned and lost. It gradually fills up bitterness and makes you doubt the feelings of that person.

I am not voicing out that you should reject the compassion or support of a close one. On contrary, having the care and love of our dear ones gives us those wings we need to fly higher. Yet, becoming dependent on them makes those wings weak.

Hence, at times, it’s good to be self-dependent and find cures to our sorrows on our own. In the end, you might as well be very surprised as you’ll not only be your own healer but others’ too!

Besides, this universe is so vast and huge, learn to connect with it and never feel lonely again. If you awake to those cosmic energies (no, I haven’t smoked weeds), you’ll find that healing strength on your own. It’s all scientific in nature. We are made up of energy that keeps us alive and energy flows all around us in different forms. Synchronising ourselves to those energies, helps us to be in phase with them and hence feel stronger and no more lonely.

I know, some of you might be asking « But how do we connect to those energies??? » I’d really like to explain it to you but my level of experience is limited for the time being. All I can do for now is guide you and share this with you.

The first step maybe should be a willingness to search for yourself, deep inside and seek for that strength that lies deep in you, waiting to be released. It does take time and patience. Develop the values of humility, love and peace and learn to appreciate this world and what it offers. Let your mind accept differences and develop tolerance. Forget jealousy, anger and hatred. See how useless it is to get lost in the maze of anxieties and rage. Above all, see the preciousness of life itself and feel that urge to make the most of it as long as you are alive!

2012 is going to be the 5th year since SouOnline exists. I just hope I keep being inspired and wish that this year I finally move on to my own domain…

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March 2011 , in Events, General thoughts, Technology- our black magic

Oye Fellow Musketeers and Catos Friends!

June 2011 , in  General thoughts

The game of flirt

July 2011 , in  General thoughts

The crying reflection

August 2011 , in  In my mind

The Splendour of Hindu Weddings

August 2011 , in Events, General thoughts

A Tale of Sisterhood

August 2011 , in General thoughts

The comfort of a touch

September 2011 , in  In my mind

A moment lost in time

November 2011 , in  In my mind

More than a friend, yet not a lover

November 2011 , in  In my mind

The Path to being Selfless

November 2011 , in  General thoughts, In my mind

Finding the soul mate

December 2011 , in  General thoughts, In my mind

2011 – “I hate you, like I love you”

December 2011 , in  General thoughts, In my mind

While people have been dreading 2012 for its prophesied end of the world, I’ve myself personally experienced the end of a world – mine more specifically. However, we tend to forget that every ending brings along new beginnings.

Hence 2011 brought about a terrible crash that slowly made me realise how life can be more beautiful once you’ve burnt, hurt and felt the true reality of it. It is often said that you can’t realise the value of what you have until you lose it. It is indeed true. Harsh times wake you up and forge your inner strength.

Life is that on-going training you receive to face whatever is coming ahead and the more you realise yourself and awaken your inner self, you find the way to follow to brightness and happiness.

With 2011 ending soon, I feel strangely more at peace with myself than I’d think. The bitter sorrows have faded to sweet contentment. Sure there are reasons for this to happen but the journey to that peace of mind wasn’t smooth at all. It is the relief you feel after going through storms, hurricanes, fires and crashes and realise that you can actually survive it all and that you’re not totally alone.

God helps those who help themselves. Indeed it is true, I’ve experienced it. I’ve been blessed with very special people who have been there to help the re-building of my lost world. Today, it is the best refuge I’ve ever had. I learnt about being on my own, about being my own support first and I’ve seen that sparkle in me die to revive as a stronger and brighter one.

Hence, I might very well say that I’m thankful for the pain and hard times. It came as an opportunity for self-discovery and transformation. Luckily I found treasured assistance from angels that came along my path. I’ve been hurt and pained but today I feel the preciousness of life and the intense joy of living it for it also gifted me with most wonderful times of my life. Farewell 2011 and thank you again!

N.B: This article marks my last one for 2011 as well as my 100^th on SouOnline. Thank you beautiful people who inspire me and make life a gift to appreciate everyday !!!

Photography courtesy of Kamlesh Jeeneea

Once again, I will not attempt to preach or deliver some discourse about any mysterious truth of life.

I will simply define the feeling of full satisfaction with life that one simple girl like me has and is experiencing.

No, bliss is not a myth nor is it impossible to attain and yes it involves living with a non-materialistic perspective.

I will not state that I’m fully out of the material world – yes I have cravings too! Yet, I’ve been able to find the silver line that demarks material and non-material life.

The most important factor would be to find peace inside of your mind. Peace does not mean having no worries. It means even if your life is troublesome (whose isn’t?) you are being able to accept it, deal with it and solve it with the best smile you’ve ever had. Some help and support are crucial in this endeavour. Therefore comes the second factor for bliss – love! Fill your heart with love, first for yourself then for others. Experience, then, its wonderful power. Don’t be mistaken though. Love is a deep value that this modern world has trivialised. Reach for the genuine one, that’s lying somewhere in a forgotten corner of your heart and let it free!

There you are, live it up now! Make the most of it. Seek for no more than the sweet feeling of contentment every morning you wake up till you sleep. No need for weeds brother It’s all inside of you, seek and find it! Bliss is the gift of appreciation you receive once you’ve found the beauty of being alive and human.

This year, I’ve been given the opportunity to prepare on the spiritual meaning of marriage for a wedding celebration.

As I made my research from spiritual or holy books, I learnt much about how being in a couple can be spiritually enriching. Besides, it helped to understand how to determine who is right for us.

It is said that every human being coming on Earth has a soul and that soul is destined for a soul mate (more specifically a twin soul). No, it is not a legend, it is a fact. Two people join in matrimony by fate or destiny but also by this special link which exists between their souls.

Unfortunately, the very nature of this union has been trivialised over time. Marriages have become more like convenience matter, at times. In some cases, it is no more than a business contract to unite two big families.

If you’ve had the chance to attend a wedding where you actually felt that special bond between the bride and the groom, then you know exactly what I mean. Their spiritual energy, together, becomes so vibrant that the whole atmosphere is different and, as it is believed in Hindu religion, when a bride and groom come on the altar, they take the divine form of God and Goddess, you really experience this sensation.

Coming to the point about finding the right person for you, it is once again based on spiritual power. Your soul mate will be your source of energy and vice versa. Together, you both will radiate and become each other’s support and haven of peace.

A life partner is one who makes life easier and more pleasant to live. He/she will give you strength that you need to go through obstacles and will do it along with you.

Yet, don’t be mistaken that those who come across your journey through life to give you help and support could be your twin soul. A soul mate is different from everyone. You need more subtleness to identify him/her but if it is the right person then you shall be the only one to feel that unique vibration and energy that his/her presence will emanate and also feel yourself complete.

Altogether, finding the soul mate is also matter of chance as you might as well never come across the person or make wrong decisions that prevent you to meet him/her. Hence, if you have been lucky enough to come across the right person, don’t waste the opportunity that life and destiny are giving you…

Each time the pangs of loneliness come hitting hard on me, I think of you. How you would tell me how lonely you were without me around.

Today, ironically, I feel that loneliness too. My pain is worse though as I’m surrounded by so many of my own but I still feel the wrath of loneliness over me. Maybe it’s meant for me to receive the punishment I deserve.

If today I cry alone, it is not for that pain in me but for the one I caused to you. My heart cries for the torments I put you through.

I am your culprit, I am the guilty one. And strangely this thought makes me accept my plight with a relieved mind. This is my punishment for leaving you behind, my punishment for letting you aside, my punishment for having been your reason to cry…

Even if guys have feelings and emotions, they have that wonderful ability to still think logically and separate emotions from practical living with amazing calm.

They might have a storm raging inside them but you’d hardly see it if they choose to hide it from you. Unless, the bond you share with them is strong to decipher them right from a look.

They might not go crazy and hazy like us, screaming and hopping when we fall in love (ok not all girls do that but still we go ecstatic) but they might be those who are intensely loving someone- may be more than us.

I completely admire that special trait of you guys. How you manage to keep your composure in front of her, how you keep your calm and act so cool even if there’s an urge to tell what you feel. I think it’s the harder way to love, yet you do it so well.

And that’s actually how you identify true love in guys. The one they feel silently, the one they first take time to assimilate for themselves, the one that invades them but over which they have full control.

Then the day they step forward to spell it out, it comes like a wind of fresh air that surprises you on a very warm day. There’s no way to run from it or hide from it. The intentions are so pure and heartfelt that you are bound to melt.

Loving the guys’ way is intensely beautiful: a mixture of passion, patience, tenderness and calm. It’s that one state of mind that makes a man/guy the best person he could be as he’s discovered what real love can be…

For a few instants, let me take you to that moment where everything stops and stands still. That very point in time where you stop being part of the world but live in a particularly intense moment in your lifetime that’s gonna last forever no matter what.

Would you share it with me? Would you let all worries behind you, the time of a moment together?

There’s no particular preparation, come as you are. There’s no particular location,let’s be where you are. There are no particular words to say, let’s enjoy the very presence of each other.

This magical feeling won’t work with anyone but you. That special feeling of being captured in a lost moment, a moment that’s never to come again but that’s gonna remain in our minds always.

There’s no need for music, your voice is the sweetest melody right now. There’s no need for great food, your talks are all that would satiate me.  There’s no need for an extravagant venue, your presence makes any place the best place to be.

There’s no need for special bright lights, smile and make my world shine. There’s no need for any splendid view, the depth of your eyes is all that matters. There’s no need for perfect weather, having you next to me is the best season of the year.

So would you? Would you share this wonderful moment with me? Immersed in nothing but the very existence of you and me.

Give it a try and see how fine it is to be. Give me just this moment to be fully lost and ever happy…

I will not attempt to write like Jane Austen, far from that. I’m only referring to her famous book for the time of an article to voice out my angry thoughts.

It might seem petty matter for some but here in Mauritius, it is rather a challenge I’d say to be a modern, open-minded girl. Every step you take is like a risk you take on dangerous mine fields.

If you wish to be fashionable, smart and sexy – run the risk to be considered as a tramp and easy going girl.

If you wish to be friendly to everyone, find yourself free to talk to any guy without any further intention behind – run the risk to be considered as a ‘playgirl’. “There you are, she’s with someone else today! Pfff!”

If you feel at ease with your male friends and feel free to laugh out happily when they are around – run the risk of being called a mad cow or “Huh, just look how she’s over-reacting with those guys! Attention seeker!”

So, to sum up, if I base myself on those braggers,  if I want to be – oh sorry – to appear like a decent girl to them, then I’d have to give up my fashion taste, jovial mood, sense of friendliness and laughing habits. There! Done! Oh, what’s that? Do I hear them giggle now? What’s wrong now? Ain’t I decent enough? “What’s that not-so-cool style girl?”, they exclaim.

Oh well! Sorry for the expression but you might as well go to hell, dear braggers! ‘Cause anyway no matter what, no matter how and no matter who, the problem doesn’t lie in us but in the prejudices you hold in your mind. Hence, I’m quite sorry for you all as I’m not losing my pride of being who I am for wicked tongues!

Those of you who understand creole will find it either iconic that Sou writes about intoxication or maybe ironic. (Sou in creole means being in a drunken state)

Rest assured friends, this intoxication ain’t vicious or obnoxious (or is it?).

I believe it’s the worst of all. Why? Let me first describe what kind of intoxication I’m referring to here. It’s an age old addiction that strikes without warning, that kicks you off so bad, waking up from it becomes very difficult.

It’s that very intoxication that keeps you wide awake. Makes you hyper and in one second makes you desperate. Its such an addiction that wherever you go, your mind is focused on it. Everywhere, every time your thoughts revolve around it.

I believe by now, some might have had a guess at what I’m describing, while others are totally lost. I’m actually discussing about that thing they call love or attraction or infatuation – it still has to be diagnosed in my case.

And if this is the worst intoxication,  it’s because there ain’t any dis-intoxication for that. You might very well try to think of other things, distance yourself or even discourage yourself about pursuing with that endeavour but it’s completely useless.

Someone told me once that the heart is stubborn. I’m literally agreeing to that, after days of fighting between my mind and heart. There ain’t any compromise found yet. It will either kill me or save me. Time only will tell.

Don’t think that it happens to only emotional fools. Oh no! It’s so unpredictable, I’m still wondering how and when it happened.

It’s so intoxicating, it’s making me useless. Ironically, at first, I was not elated by this truth but got totally lost. Lost in a maze of questions, hopes and fears. Yet, I’ve found that accepting it is the best I could do. Making it my strength and reason to feel good every day. Yes, I’m lost in that intoxication but I’m happy it struck me. I’m happy for the different vision of life it brings me. Though I haven’t figured out how this will evolve, I’m trying an age old cure to that : patience. Hoping this intoxication doesn’t make me weak and desperate again…